CODEPENDENCY AND OTHER LOVE DRUGS

Have you ever been in a relationship where you can’t perform basic human tasks (like breathing) without your personal person? I haven’t. Ever. I however know of people who are joined at the hip to their partners and that’s cute, but it’s also very dangerous. Human life is finite; people die. We were born to die. So what happens when your partner; the one you couldn’t breathe without, dies? Do you die too?

Codependent relationships, in my opinion, are dementors. They literally suck the soul out of a person, and by that I mean you, who was once an individual, become a part of an entity. Think of it this way; you stop being your own person and you become an added appendage, like a mole or something. When your person dies and you have to exist as the mole, you won’t even be able to recognize yourself as an individual when you look into the mirror.

The thing with codependency is that one person is more dependent on their partner than the one being depended upon; you run a risk of being exploited if you’re the more dependent (and less dominant) partner. Because let’s face it, you don’t have a life outside your relationship. That’s dangerous. Have a hobby. Go gardening. Read a book or something – just learn to exist outside your relationship for the nourishment of your own soul.

The key to living a wholesome life is in doing what you love, and if being on love drugs is what you love, there won’t be anything left of you in the sands of time. History books have room for only one Romeo and Juliet; go out there and write your own love story without forgetting who you are as an individual. You’ll be a lot happier.