OUTSOURCED DUTIES

For those of you who have watched Scandal – Shonda Rhimes’ political drama that aired its final episode this April, we all rooted for Olitz in the beginning. Despite the fact that she was the mistress, we rooted for Olivia and Fitz’s love. And as the series developed, we learn that Mellie – the First Lady – always knew of this affair but preferred to disrupt the balance because it didn’t work for her. She got the White House, Olivia got the Oval and Fitz got Liv. Everybody won.

This therefore begs the question; if a man indeed had a mistress and the wife knew who she was, would it be such a bad thing? Wouldn’t it save the drama of women fighting over men, getting hurt physically, emotionally and mentally while men just go about their business like nothing changed? I think it would be more effective if the wife and the mistress worked together, for the collective betterment of their lives. Also wives are humans and get tired; I think it’s okay to outsource some of your marital duties so having a relationship with the mistress (tag team partner) may not be the worst of ideas.

The notion that someone stole another’s partner is so laughable and ridiculous that the person who thought it should be forever branded a dunce. Adults have the ability to make choices of their own, and as much as some factors may facilitate the making of choices, the decision rests squarely with us. If a man left his wife for another woman, that is a choice he makes. If a man neglects his family because of another woman, that’s also a choice he makes, just like the one he made to start a family with the woman he is neglecting. No one else’s but his, kukaliwa chapatti notwithstanding. As women we should stick together and demand better of men, and if you as the wife work closely with the mistress then you’ve got two votes against the man’s one (assuming it’s a democracy). That’s how you run the world in your unholy trinity. Finally, this is my unpopular opinion; you need not go by it.